Insecurities are a blessing.
Trauma is a gift.
Failure. Embarrassment. Rejection. Shame.
Are gifts.
I am the man you see today because of childhood trauma.
I got bullied and beat up. I had my heart broken. I was ridiculed for my skinny fat body.
Nobody took me seriously. And why would they? I was a joke in my adolescence.
But guess what I didn’t do?
Use it as an excuse.
“Oh, I have PTSD from my oh-so-hard childhood. Gotta cry about it to everyone I know.”
No. I used it as fuel.
Oh.. you wanna kick the sh*t out of me?
Let’s go. Bring your friends too.
Oh.. you don’t want to be with me cause I’m short and bald?
I can have any woman I want today. (But I only want one)
Oh.. you think my business sucks and I’ll never make it?
I made it the moment I decided to answer God’s call for my life.
You can’t touch me. Nothing you do or say affects me.
I made myself bulletproof. Using painful past experiences as motivation, as fuel.
NEVER AS AN EXCUSE!!
Which is exactly what I see you doing.
One of the most painful moments in my life was when I realized I was losing my hair.
Already self-conscious and insecure.. and now my hair’s falling out?
Damn..
I did the only reasonable thing and shaved my head.
Could I have stopped my hair from falling out? Maybe. But I had already made my decision.
I knew this was a new beginning.
I was done trying to fit in and instead used that energy to build myself up to a high level physically and mentally.
External validation didn’t mean anything to me anymore.
It was the beginning of a new chapter in my life and I thank God for this level up.
Pain to purpose
The things you’re insecure about, the things that cause you MASSIVE PAIN are the very things you need to change about yourself.
They are the very areas you have to work on.
Ashamed of your body? Change it.
Lose the love handles and titties. Get ripped and stronger than anyone you know. (Enter M.E.A.N. and join the winning Team).
Embarrassed about your vices – the smoking, the drinking, the binge eating, the porn addiction, the sleeping in? Change it.
Follow a daily program that fortifies your body and mind and crushes your low-level desires.
Insecure about your position in life? CHANGE IT!!
Your insecurities are your call to level up. Your embarrassment is a BLESSING.
Don’t try to escape it. Don’t run from it.
And never ever EVER let it turn to apathy!!
Turn that pain into purpose.
My insecurities brought me here.
Embrace yours.
I believe in you.
V
Huub says
Great story and honesty, dear Victor.
I started to become bald 5 years ago, shaved my head, and funny enough feel MORE like a man now.
Going through all your previous blogs for information and motivation, I am on my path to become stronger.
Thanx for everything, brother.
Bless you and yours
Victor says
God bless.